I read a book a couple of years ago called, “Why Men Hate Going To Church.” It was a fascinating read. One of my favorite quotes from the book is, “Men regard churchgoing like a prostate exam; it’s something that can save their lives, but it’s so unpleasant and invasive, they put it off.”
Studies show that ninety percent of the men in America believe in God, and five out of six call themselves Christians. But only two out of six attend church on any given Sunday.
It would be easy to place the blame on the men who are skipping church to head to the golf course, or to their favorite hunting spot, or their favorite coffee shop. And perhaps some men do need a swift kick. But I’m wondering if a lot of the blame should be placed on the church?
Here’s what I mean. When you go to most church services, what do you do? You sing. And you don’t just sing, you sing songs that are irrelevant to music that is outdated. You sit and listen to someone talk. And a lot of times it’s talk about subjects that don’t seem to matter to everyday life from someone who doesn’t seem in touch with the real world. You give your money away. Money that you’ve worked hard to earn! Is it any wonder most men stay away?
But guys, there is hope. Some churches are waking up. We’re talking about topics that are life changing. We still have music, but it’s not like when you were growing up. And you can keep your money, at least until you’re ready to invest it in changing the world.
Maybe you should give church another chance?
I am not really sure I agree it’s the church’s fault if men do not attend. In my humble opinion, men need to take responsibility for the spiritual lives of their families and show leadership. The church is never going to “lure” these men in, until they realize they are called to be men of God and, as such, examples for their families.
Speaking on the subject of men and church::::: I can say this for RiverTree Pastors, I can take my husband there without having to nudge him to keep him awake.
My husband just recently told me he started to go to Church for me. Now he goes for himself. RT has been a blessing in our family.
In my opinion and observation men avoid church because there’s just no incentive for them to attend. I’m speaking for myself as well. Most chruches I’ve visited are full of whiny, complaining women. What man wants to be part of an organization that promotes that?